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Robbie Whitaker

Robert “Robbie” Whitaker was an Ashkenazi Jewish architect who specialized in accessible residential design. He was married to Annie Whitaker and was the father of Lindsay, Leslie, and Robert “RJ” Whitaker Jr.. The family lived in Mt. Washington, Baltimore.

Education and Career

Robbie completed an undergraduate degree before attending the University of Maryland, College Park, where he earned a Master of Architecture. He had entered architecture with a general interest in how buildings shaped people’s lives and in accessible design, not a fixed specialty. He became licensed to practice architecture in Maryland, owned Whitaker Architecture, and belonged to the American Institute of Architects.

Living with Annie’s family made access a sustained part of Robbie’s design work; RJ’s 2012 diagnosis accelerated that direction. His practice focused on accessible residential and multigenerational design and also consulted for institutions; he was recognized in Baltimore as an expert in accessible residential architecture. He applied what he learned to the family’s home through phased renovations that included tactile wayfinding, multimodal alerts, accessible kitchens and bathrooms, and a first-floor suite for Saul Rosen and Miri Rosen. His professional work had moderate visibility through conferences and trade publications, while his family life remained private.

Personality

Robbie was deliberate, observant, and quietly funny. He listened closely and thought before speaking. His humor was affectionate and dry, less expansive than Saul’s but well suited to answering his father-in-law’s teasing. He kept a small circle of close friends from UMD and his architecture practice and was warmly sociable in small groups without seeking broad visibility.

Robbie rarely displayed anger. Annie had seen him truly furious only a handful of times across their marriage, in response to institutional failures affecting RJ or her parents rather than conflict with someone he loved. He was often the person who repaired a broken household item or found a practical change to make an inaccessible space usable.

Family Life

Main article: Annie Whitaker and Robbie Whitaker

Robbie met Annie at a coffee shop near the University of Maryland in spring 2000, and they talked for four hours. Later that year he met her parents; Saul’s two-hour signed interrogation became a family story, followed by decades of teasing and mutual affection. Robbie proposed in late 2004, and they married in September 2005. They made their home in Mt. Washington and raised three children there. Lindsay and Leslie were identical twins born in 2007, and RJ was born in 2012.

Robbie shared parenting and household work with Annie. He handled most weekday cooking, household finances, and physical maintenance of the home. His cooking often drew on Mediterranean and Asian dishes; his chicken with preserved lemon became a family favorite. Annie baked Friday challah and managed much of RJ’s medical coordination, while both parents shared school and activity logistics. Robbie read bedtime stories in English and ASL. Their professional incomes kept the household comfortable without making it wealthy.

Their division of care let Annie receive support after days of clinical work rather than always be the person holding others. Robbie, in turn, could rely on Annie as a partner rather than be valued only for what he fixed or organized.

After Annie’s 2033 stroke, Robbie coordinated her care and the household through approximately eighteen months of rehabilitation. He managed RJ’s support alongside Annie’s post-ICU recovery. He had begun seeing a therapist a few years before the stroke for unrelated reasons, and that support became especially important while he cared for Annie. Their marriage remained a place where Annie could receive sustained care rather than always provide it.

In 2042 Saul and Miri moved into the first-floor suite Robbie had designed in consultation with them. During their final two years he checked on Saul, maintained the household adaptations, and drove his in-laws to appointments when Annie could not. Saul and Miri’s deaths in October 2044 were losses for Robbie as well as Annie.

Cultural Identity and Community

Robbie was raised in Maryland in a hearing Ashkenazi Jewish family and was Reform in observance. He and Annie maintained a Jewish household together, including Friday Shabbat dinners, the High Holidays, and their children’s Hebrew schooling. His family had no earlier connection to Deaf culture; his adult acculturation came through Annie, her parents, and RJ.

Communication and Access

Robbie was a hearing English speaker who learned ASL through his marriage and family life. His signing became fluent and functional but remained non-native: precise and careful rather than broad. Saul once told Annie that Robbie signed “like a hearing Jewish architect who has loved his wife for a long time.” Robbie spoke with a mild Maryland accent and a calm, dry mid-range voice. As RJ’s vision narrowed, Robbie began learning Protactile around 2022 and participated in adapting the family home to tactile communication and wayfinding. He was a member of the Jewish Deaf Society of Baltimore through his family life with Annie and the Rosens.

Health and Genetics

Robbie was an asymptomatic heterozygous carrier of the USH1F ‘’PCDH15’’ c.733C>T (p.Arg245Ter/R245X) founder variant through his own unrelated Ashkenazi Jewish line. He and Annie learned of their carrier status through genetic testing after RJ’s Usher syndrome diagnosis in 2012; neither had expected Robbie to carry the same variant.

The result changed their understanding of how RJ had inherited USH1F. Robbie and Annie considered whether broader screening before his birth might have given them that knowledge earlier and processed the diagnosis separately and together. Robbie was otherwise generally healthy as of the mid-2020s.

Physical Characteristics and Presentation

Robbie stood approximately five feet ten to six feet tall and had a lean build, dark eyes, and glasses he had worn since his thirties. He kept his brown hair short and was clean-shaven; by the mid-2020s, roughly a tenth of his hair had gone silver, most visibly at the temples. The small movements around his eyes were particularly expressive when he listened to Annie. His usual clothes were dark jeans or trousers with button-down shirts or tees, cardigans or thin sweaters, and sensible shoes; for professional settings, he kept a small rotation of unshowy blazers. He wore a thin gold wedding band and a practical watch.

Memorable Quotes

“Of course you are. What do you need.”

Robbie signed this to Annie after she said she would take Jacob Keller’s case in 2022.

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